by Marion Schneider:
need comfort. Not that they are weak – it is rather a form
of tenderness their body, mind and soul is longing for, a connection
signalling: you are not alone, I will be with you, I am with you,
you can rely on me. It is just a form of tenderness to create
warmth and happiness. The comfort can be a question like "oh,
you look a little pale, are you alright?" or a hug when she
seems to be frustrated or just a little smile.
Most women are
social beings, they enjoy being in a group and feel rather frightened
of being alone – this is not yet part of the female tradition,
rather the opposite: she was not allowed to be alone.
The life of
the woman is centred around her body. Her body is object of pleasure
and also of exploitation. Some women succeed in making their body
an active and vital positive element of their life. Women care
for the bodies of others, e.g. when they care for the elderly
and the sick. Their own body gives life to other bodies. The outside
world is reflected and felt in their body, a process of give and
take, an exchange in which the woman is both object and subject.
She receives the semen, she gives the blood and bears the child.
She receives adoration and gives love.
Women want and
need the freedom to express themselves but often they do not dare
to show and live it out. For them an atmosphere of understanding
and positive thinking is vital because they have not yet elaborated
so many mechanisms for overcoming obstacles or resistance. Dialogue
is a pleasant way of solving problems.
still need to find their individual way of expression. It is so
vital not to try to interfere because one might think she needs
support but to let her find her own way of expressing herself
and help her in that. It is worth it, as she will be very grateful
for all the patience she really needs.